A Perfect Gift for an Imperfect Christmas - A Night for Weary Hearts

A Perfect Gift for an Imperfect Christmas - A Night for Weary Hearts

Author: Pastor Scott Schul
December 16, 2025

Though here within the Church we defiantly proclaim that this is the season of Advent, and Christmas is still over a week away, deep down even this stubborn old pastor knows in his heart of hearts that we are already immersed in Christmas.  There’s no denying it.  We are inundated with Christmas music on the radio, the Hallmark Channel is full of Christmas-themed movies, and we see Christmas trees wherever we go.  In my home I’m not waiting until Advent is over to put up my Christmas decorations, and I suspect you haven’t waited either.

The thing about Christmas though is that it naturally makes us nostalgic, and the problem with nostalgia is that it never reveals the whole truth, only an edited version of the truth which omits all the ugly parts, not unlike those Hallmark Channel movies.  Just the other day I was thinking about the idyllic, perfect Christmases I knew as a little boy in Kane.  And as I thought about those ideal childhood Christmases, my disappointment grew at how very unprepared I feel for Christmas this year, and how there’s no way I can ever provide that perfect experience for my family.

And that’s when I realized that my childhood memories of Christmas were more nostalgia than reality.  The more I thought about it, the more imperfect I realized they were – not because my family didn’t try hard enough – but just because life happens, and life will always be imperfect.

As I look back now, without the fog of nostalgia obscuring my perspective, I can see that my parents struggled with Christmas just as much as I do, and perhaps as much as you do.  I’m sure they worried as they balanced their desire to provide gifts for us with the hard reality of all the bills coming due.  And I’m sure Mom was stressed as she frantically put our big holiday meals together, and Dad was overtired from his job and over frustrated from assembling the bicycle in time for it to appear under the tree on Christmas morning.  And then there were the other frustrations that arose at Christmas time as a visitor lingered a little too long or a relative on Christmas Eve had a little too much Christmas cheer.

Perhaps you’ve come here tonight because you lament your inability to recreate the perfect Christmas from your childhood that you lovingly remember.  I hope now you realize that those Christmases were far from perfect.  And this Christmas won’t be perfect for any of us either.  With a deep breath, let’s acknowledge that truth, accept its inevitability, and free ourselves from those impossibly unreal expectations.

After all, as Peter wrote in our lesson, “for a little while you have had to suffer various trials.”  He doesn’t say that we suffer only if we deserve it, or if we are flawed, lazy, or luckless.  No, Peter says we all suffer trials.  No exceptions.  No matter how hard we try or how good we think we are, we all experience imperfection.  Even at Christmas.

I can offer no better example than the Holy Family.  Could there be a worse Christmas than the one they experienced?  I imagine poor Mary had to suffer the wounds of gossip as people quietly whispered that Joseph wasn’t the father.  Then imagine having to travel so far, probably on a donkey, while being pregnant?  And imagine having to give birth in the discomfort of a cave, because the guest rooms were all full?  But it gets worse.  Despite all these hardships, you’ve given birth to a healthy baby and now, in a mixture of exhaustion and exhilaration, you just want to sleep and cuddle your newborn son.  But who bursts in?  A noisy army of angels and a smelly collection of shepherds who you’ve never met in your life.  And yet Luke tells us that Mary reacted to all this chaos, discomfort, and imperfection by treasuring it all, and pondering it all in her heart. 

How was Mary able to overcome all those disruptions, disappointments, and imperfections and still find joy?  The answer is clear: it’s because Jesus was right there with her.  His presence, and all the hope and promise he represented, enabled her to overcome the imperfection of the moment and to see the bigger picture of salvation and new life that had just miraculously been born into our world.

Friends, amidst our disappointments and the inherent chaos of this season, Jesus is our answer too.  As Peter noted in his letter, by God’s mercy we too have been given a new birth: a “birth into a living hope through”… Jesus Christ.  He is the only true perfection in our lives.  Especially at Christmas we see how Jesus willingly enters the messiness of our lives.  Solely out of love for us, he will experience the aches and pains of a mortal body, grief and tears at the death of his beloveds, and the disappointment of betrayal by one of his closest friends.

But in all this worldly imperfection he brings forgiveness, redemption, a fresh start, and hope… so much hope.  We all know that our world is full of suffering.  And all of us, whether here tonight or not, likewise bear the marks of suffering.  We all have weary hearts tonight, and it’s likely we’ll have weary hearts many more nights as well.  But like Mary on that first and very imperfect Christmas, we also have Jesus, and he is more powerful than any suffering or inconvenience.  By the grace of God, here in the imperfection of this night, Jesus is being born anew in our hearts, to comfort us, console us, care for us, and guide our way forward. 

Indeed, in our imperfect lives, amid an imperfect Christmas, Jesus is the most perfect gift we could ever receive.  Thanks be to God.  Amen.

© 2025 Rev. Scott E. Schul, all rights reserved

The Lesson: 1 Peter 1:3-9
3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! By his great mercy he has given us a new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead 4 and into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, 5 who are being protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In this you rejoice, even if now for a little while you have had to suffer various trials, 7 so that the genuineness of your faith—being more precious than gold that, though perishable, is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Although you have not seen him, you love him, and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and rejoice with an indescribable and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls.


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